Discussing this face to face works far better, as it allows you to explore deeper, but as some guys are still unsure or even afraid to talk about these issues (this is quite common amongst survivors) it was considered that it should be part of the website, so hopefully it makes sense.

What can trigger you off?

Anything can; A sound, a smell, taste, hearing music, even seeing someone who looks like the person who abused you, all of which can cause what is known as a trigger and can cause you to freak out, feel afraid, react badly to things, or even feel suicidal at times.

Triggers can occur any time, any place and can invoke aspects of the sexual abuse you survived, and can even make you feel as if it has happened all over again, so here are some simple ideas on how to deal with them, but as always, it will take some work to alter your current frame of mind, and how you deal with the past, but if put into practise, it becomes a normal way of thinking and reacting to the triggers.

Try it, it does work, but as said, it take some time to change current thought practises so take some time to do it, and if you 'fail' at the beginning, keep trying until you win!

OK, how to get started..... Start off by putting the triggers back where they belong, which is in the past, and in doing so, place those thoughts back where they belong, which is in the past.

This is not what you will find elsewhere on the Net and is not a typical way of dealing with triggers, so please don't expect to read things about taking care of yourself. (Make sure you do! )

As you go about your normal day time routine, and if anything kicks in that scares you or makes you feel unsafe, pay attention to who or what has triggered you to feel the way you do.

As said above, it could be a sight, a sound, or a person who resembles those who hurt you, but in reality, it is just a thought process that kicks in and makes you feel unsafe and potentially at risk of being harmed.

You are safe, yet your past tells you to be scared of a potential threat or danger.

This is increased even more if the abuse was a violent attack, which initially left you feeling scared for your life, and that can linger well in the future, as a pre-warning sign of possible danger.

Make a list of all the things that do trigger you, and if you state that everything triggers me, list everything!

By that I mean sit down, with pen and paper, and start writing it all down, as it really helps to see it all written down.

DON'T begin this by putting a barrier of if's and buts' in the way, or you will never do the work that needs doing. 

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